You know what I’m discovering? It’s pretty rare to meet someone who is really attractive and is also a good conversationalist. I know I’m generalizing, but in my experience it’s more often true than not (hmm… or maybe it’s just that these attractive people don’t want to talk to me… haha… anyhow…). I think it’s maybe because they don’t usually have to “drive” the conversation – that others are more than willing to initiate and continue a conversation with them just because they’re good-looking. Me, I’ve had to drive plenty of conversations in my life… I hate it. It always feels like you’re dragging them someplace they don’t want to be… and to be honest, you’re not that excited to be with them there either… “so… you like strawberry ice cream too, huh? Isn’t that something… isn’t losing an hour to daylight savings in the spring a drag?.. man, this elevator ride is long… you know, maybe I’ll just get off here on the 4th floor… nice talking to you…”
I’m sure some of it is because they don’t want to give the other the impression they might be interested in them. So it pays to be somewhat cold. Maybe by being a little more patient in the awkward silences pays off if the potential suitor feels weird enough to just give up and walk away. Maybe they’re not even doing it consciously anymore. Like how I’m sure someone who is a new celebrity at first may be flattered to be asked for an autograph, but after the thousandth time, it just gets old. But I don’t even think that it’s even that they have so much to say and are holding it back in those situations for this reason. I’m just sure that there is only so much one can talk about clothes, grooming, and their workout routine.
I also think that maybe because they might be so conscious of their image that they’re afraid that what they’re going to say will make them seem less attractive… whether it’s because it might seem shallow, unintelligent, or just downright boring. So they don’t say anything at all… whereas less attractive people feel like they have nothing to lose by speaking up… in fact, maybe what they say will only make them more intriguing or interesting.