Newsflash: Your life is not as crappy as you think it is. I’m being serious. Now I’m not going to say like some people… well, at least you have a roof over your head or that you get three meals a day (although you do). I’m saying that how you feel your life is depends largely on what you think of it. Period. If you’re constantly thinking that life has given you a raw deal or that you have it worse off than most other people, it actually becomes true because you make it come true. If you see yourself as the victim, everything you see around you will be colored by your victim mentality. If you think that people don’t like or appreciate you, it doesn’t matter what they actually think about you (if they’re even thinking anything at all), because you’ve already allowed that feeling to devalue you.
The human spirit (and for Christians, the Holy Spirit), is remarkably resilient. Personally, I think it’s God who shows us mercy by giving us a way out of our despair. If you find that you are more often filled with doubt and desolation than not, I don’t think it’s because you’ve been handed something worse than most other people. I think it’s actually because you allow yourself to wallow in it… that somehow feeling sorry for yourself will be the salve that soothes your tender soul. It is not. It becomes an infection that will poison the rest of your body if left unchecked.
Don’t blame external circumstances for your situation. Don’t resent other people for not meeting your expectations or measuring up to your standards. If you expect the world to change to make you happy, maybe it’s not the world that’s at fault.